Chapter 16 of 17
She should never have to wonder if she comes first. Your calendar, your phone, and your eyes should answer.
Reflect
Answer honestly — your responses save to this device only. There are no right answers, only true ones.
If she had to rank her place in my life by my actions this month, where would she land?
What — work, kids, hobby, screen — has been outranking her without me admitting it?
When she walks into the room, do I look up? Every time?
Do I protect time for us, or do I give her my leftovers?
What is one decision I made recently that did not honor her as my first priority?
What weekly rhythm proves to her that she is my person?
Act
Pick one. Do it before Sunday. Check it off when it's done.
Discuss
These prompts are designed for connection — not debate. Listen more than you talk.
Each share: 'When have you felt most prioritized by me — and least?'
Audit your calendar together. Where is she actually appearing?
Plan a recurring weekly rhythm that proves the priority.
"Priority is not a feeling you have. It is a pattern she can point to."