Chapter 13 of 17
Your frustration is data, not destiny. How you handle it is the test of your leadership.
Reflect
Answer honestly — your responses save to this device only. There are no right answers, only true ones.
What frustration am I leaking through tone, sighs, or silence instead of saying?
What recurring trigger keeps blowing me up — and what is it really about?
When I'm frustrated, do I move TOWARD her or AWAY? Why?
What have I been blaming her for that is actually mine to fix?
How does she experience my anger — and is that the man I want to be?
What would 'self-control under pressure' look like in our next hard moment?
Act
Pick one. Do it before Sunday. Check it off when it's done.
Discuss
These prompts are designed for connection — not debate. Listen more than you talk.
Each share: 'When you're frustrated, here's what I most need…'
Map your top 3 recurring fights — find the pattern under the topic.
Practice a repair phrase together you can use in real-time conflict.
"Self-control is the muscle that protects every other promise you make to her."