Chapter 12 of 17
Romance is your job, not hers. Pursue her like you're still trying to win her — because you are.
Reflect
Answer honestly — your responses save to this device only. There are no right answers, only true ones.
When was the last time I pursued her with no agenda — just to be near her?
Have I let our physical relationship become routine or obligatory?
What does she need EMOTIONALLY before she can connect with me physically?
What is one romantic gesture she loved that I've stopped doing?
How am I still flirting with my wife in everyday life?
What unspoken physical desire or hesitation does she carry that I've never asked about?
Act
Pick one. Do it before Sunday. Check it off when it's done.
Discuss
These prompts are designed for connection — not debate. Listen more than you talk.
Each answer: 'What makes you feel desired by me?'
Trade your three favorite memories of us together. No phones.
Talk about: 'What season is our intimacy in, and where do we want it to go?'
"Romance is not a feeling you wait for — it is a discipline you lead with."